Love begins...
Love begins with the truth. That you are who you are, with your values, desires and needs, with your abilities and limitations. If you try to be different to the detriment of your values, desires and needs, but for the sake of relationships, you will be unhappy, in constant fear and tension, and therefore - unsuitable for love.
Love begins with respect. The other is also what it is, with its values, desires, capabilities and limitations. And if he doesn’t have something for you, that doesn’t make him somehow flawed, weak, small, he doesn’t need to be saved, taught, nudged, prompted or cured. He doesn’t even have to be trusted. It is enough to listen and hear and perceive without distortion.
Love begins with the free. So, in love there is no place for fear, control, calculations and ready-made algorithms. For love to grow and grow stronger, you need air.