Why do "good girls" get the short end of the stick, while "bitches" get it all?
Let’s be honest: we were taught from childhood to be undemanding and accommodating. "Be modest," "don't draw attention to yourself," "good girls don't argue," "just give in—you're the smarter one." And what is the result? Masha, the "good girl," spends years waiting for her partner to finally get the hint and propose (after all, dropping hints isn't considered polite), shoulders the burden of both housework and her career, only to hear: "You're so reliable—like a sister."
And what about these "bitches"? In the classic societal sense, they are women who clearly know their boundaries, voice their desires openly, aren't afraid to be "inconvenient," and put themselves first. And you know what? For some reason, they get flowers for no reason, promotions, and men who look at them with admiration—rather than as mere pieces of the décor.
It is time to face the obvious: being "convenient" has never brought anyone happiness in their personal life. Men do not fall in love with the function of being convenient—they choose character, fire, and personal boundaries.
Tomala’s Kyiv Reality
Tomala does not wait for miracles. Like any woman in Kyiv—especially these days—she fully appreciates the value of each day, knows how to plan her life amidst air raid sirens, and understands perfectly well that she can rely on herself, her own capabilities, and the stroke of luck that favors the prepared.
I took off my rose-colored glasses a long time ago. She knows what it’s like to juggle work deadlines and volunteering, to drink a lukewarm *raf* coffee during a blackout, and yet not lose her zest for life. She doesn’t suffer from the "good girl" syndrome—the type who would silently endure disrespect just to tick the "I’m in a relationship" box.
She doesn’t need to be rescued. She needs a partner with whom she can enjoy a coffee on Reitarska Street, debate plans for the evening, and share a comfortable silence when the moment calls for it. She doesn’t play "guess what I’m thinking" games, yet she has no tolerance for indifference. Most importantly, Tomala knows full well that a date from a dating site isn’t a job interview for the role of the perfect homemaker—it’s a way to find the right person. Someone who values your unique individuality rather than just your compliance.
The main secret of "bitches" is simple: they allow themselves to be themselves, rather than living up to the expectations of others. Are you ready to stop being "convenient" and start truly living?
What do you think? Where is the line between healthy selfishness and that "bitchiness" men fear so much? Share your thoughts in the comments!